The Qualities of Attraction

(For Men)

Attraction doesn’t solely depend on looks. According to studies, it has been found that women prefer good looking men only for flings and one night stands. The reason for this is because, good looking men are so confident about their looks that they fail to improve their other qualities and hence they fail to trigger certain emotions. Attraction depends on many other qualities that make you who you are. Don’t be under the impression that looks and wealth are enough to get you a high quality, loving woman. Of course, you don’t need me to tell you that. You yourself have seen many average looking guys dating above average, beautiful women who are above their league. To make oneself attractive, one must possess at least some of the following qualities. 


Spontaneity is one of the most attractive qualities. Your unpredictability will make her addicted to you. That is, you must surprise her from time to time. You can’t take her to the same restaurant every time you go for a date. Take her someplace new every time you are out. She shouldn’t be able to predict your next move. That includes bringing her present even if there is no occasion, or taking her for unplanned trips etc.


Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that you can have. You gain confidence when you start believing in yourself and stop seeking validation from others. Your confidence is portrayed in everything that you do, your actions, your speech, your body language, your style.

But to gain confidence in speech, you must practice. Start making simple conversations with the opposite sex. By practice, it will get easier, and eventually you will be able to talk to any girl without hesitation. And remember to have an erect posture and straight eye contact.

Self acceptance

One thing you must remember is that, in order to be attractive to others, you must be attractive to yourself. That is, you must accept everything that you are, without a least bit of insecurity. What you feel about yourself will be reflected by the people around you. The energy that you exude will bounce back to you. Instead of trying to be attractive to others, try to be attractive to yourself. Only then will you find true acceptance.

If you find this difficult, spiritual meditation and yoga might be of some help. Self acceptance is not easy. It comes only with practice. People who have accepted themselves are usually calm and don’t give a shit about what other people say about them. Because they know what they are and they have accepted all their shortcomings.


My advice to you is, be honest. Your honesty will show your confidence. If you are honest with her, there is a big chance she will open up to you. When a woman wants a confident man, all she’s asking is that, you present yourself in a full and honest light, including all your imperfections. She wants to see who you really are, and not who you’re pretending to be.


It is an obvious fact that women are attracted to men who stand above others and have higher social value. But remember that leadership is not about grasping power and respect through force. People who use force are emotionally weak and hence they depend on force, but people who are emotionally strong don’t need force to lead. It’s about earning that respect by striving for it. By treating your underlings with respect and kindness. Only then you can called a true leader.


Women are attracted to men with goals who are actually pursuing them. Having an ambition is very attractive to most women. It shows that you are thinking about your future and it increases your long term value. It also shows that you are self dependent and not a needy type of a character. They want someone who knows what they want and are going after it. No matter how much money you make, if you are unenthusiastic about your work, it is a turn down quality.


Having an ambition doesn’t mean that you have to work 24/7. Ambition should always be combined with attention, that is, along with you working for your dreams, you must spare some time for her and give her enough attention or eventually she will get bored. When it comes to forming an connection with her and winning her loyalty, you must be present when she needs you. Especially when you are having conversations, be fully involved. When you are with her, remember to give her your full attention. By attention, I mean 100% attention or she will start losing interest. 

Sense of humor

Women prefer men who have a good sense of humor, men who don’t take life too seriously. They want someone who can make them laugh, someone who can make their lives happier. They want to have fun. 


Women like men who perform good deeds. Your social behavior will reflect what kind of a person you are. Women don’t want to spend their lives with someone who has no kindness and compassion in them.


Possessing some kind of skills will increase your potential value to a great level. It can be anything that you are good at. It can be a hobby like sports, some kind of outdoor activity, playing instruments, writing, singing, or any other technical skills. But remember not to boast about your skills, instead you can perform anything that you are good at when you get the chance. If you think that you don’t have a skill worth showing off, then you can get a good hobby. You can consider learning musical instruments, since they are one of the most popular chick magnet skills.


A. Royden D’souza
Author of “shadythree’s Playbook” and “The Atlantis Saga”
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