The reason you go out on a date with a guy is to check your compatibility. It may be a success or it may failure. Be ready to accept rejection, and always be a lady if he is making efforts to be a gentleman.
First impression lasts for a long time, so have a decent look on the first date. Be a lady, but don’t overdo it. Be yourself, there is nothing more beautiful than being yourself.
LET HIM BE A MAN
Sit back and give him an opportunity to pamper you. If you need something, tell him. If you need any help ask him. Every gentleman likes to help a damsel in distress.
HAVE A COUPLE OF TOPICS READY
Have some topics ready with you just in case the conversation falters. You can talk about school, your hobbies, music, movies….this way you can avoid awkward silence.
HAVE FUN AND BE PLAYFUL
Playfulness is one of the most attractive qualities you can have. You can act goofy. Be a cool and easy person to hang out with. The colder you are, more undesirable you get.
SMILE AND LAUGH
Smile whenever you can, and laugh if he says something funny. It will make him more comfortable and less nervous around you.
Don’t just sit back and let him do all the talking. Remember, it is not an interview. Ask him a few questions too. You can ask him to elaborate on something. Guys love it when girls show interest. The only way to keep the conversation going is by asking questions.
ATTEMPT TO PAY
Attempt to pay. At least for the first few dates. It shows that you are genuinely interested in him. But be prepared to pay. It would be a little embarrassing if you attempt to pay and he actually lets you to.
Say whatever you want to say directly. Don’t expect him to read between the lines and end up getting disappointed. Just tell him what you want him to know.
Always be positive. It will make the date fun and more enjoyable.
Just be yourself, especially on the first date. Let him like you for what you really are. You don’t have to change anything for him. If they can’t embrace you for what you are, trust me, they are not worth your time.
Live in the moment. Don’t be ‘by the book’ kinda girl. Don’t live your life according to plans. Don’t recite conversations, you might as well ask him to hand over his resume. Be spontaneous. Think that you are talking to your friend. Don’t stick to the script, you are not hiring him for a job.
KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET
Let the first date be short and sweet, don’t drag it out or you will end up running out on topics to talk about. Opt for something like lunch or a drink. But don’t go dumping your sob stories and gossips on him, at least not till you are in a real relationship.
Remember to say thanks. It shows that you appreciate his efforts.
Be friendly with him. You can even invite him to hang out with you and your friends. It will be relaxing for both of you. Remember, do not treat him like a potential spouse, remove the pressure and be friendly.
Remember, don’t mistake confidence with arrogance. It doesn’t matter how pretty you are. If you are arrogant, no one will like you, and you might end up with some loser. Simplicity and confidence will make you more attractive, whereas arrogance will just bring you down.
It is natural to be nervous on your first date, but try yo be as confident as possible. One way to build your confidence is that, before you go to the date, you can make a list of things that you like about yourself and read it out loud in front of the mirror. It will give you confidence. Carry yourself with grace. And when you leave, part with confidence. Say things like, ‘I had a great time, I look forward to seeing you again’ and stuff like that. If you did not like him much, you can say ‘I’ll call you’ or something like that, even though you are not gonna call him.
Hold his hands or you can even lean on his shoulder if you are watching a movie together, it is a sign of affection. Walk close to each other.
Eye contact is very important. When you are having a conversation, look him in the eye and do not look down. Looking away while talking is a sign of insecurity or a lack of interest.
If he is trying really hard to woo you, go easy on him, compliment him, but not too much that he treats you like a pushover. Saying ‘ you look really nice ‘,or ‘wow, nice outfit’ is acceptable, but don’t go saying things like ‘ you look gorgeous’ or ‘ you look sexy ‘ or stuff like that.
If he compliments you, just say Thank you. Don’t go around saying stuff like “Really?” or “No I don’t” or “You are kidding” or “You think so?”. It shows that you are insecure and not confident in yourself. What I’m trying to say is, don’t negate his compliments.
Don’t use too much perfume, pick a light perfume, and apply it liberally over the pulse points like palms, neck, back of the neck….
Don’t go wearing short dress or skirts if you are planning to go bowling or hiking. Dress for the occasion. Wear whatever you are comfortable in. Dress in softer shades during your first few dates. Dressing out of your comfort zone will make you feel on edge and subconscious, so always dress within your comfort zone.
Always keep it light. An excess application is a major turnoff. If you do it right you can pull it off, if you are not good at it, then don’t do it.
Wearing ornaments is acceptable, but keep it light. Do not wear too much jewelry.
Shower, brush and floss your teeth before you go on a date. Make sure that your hands are clean and your legs shaved. It will make you look more appealing. Keep your hands soft by using moisturizers.
Do not order anything expensive unless you are sure that he can afford it.
GOOD BYE KISS
A good guy does not usually make this move. Giving him a hug or a kiss on the cheek is acceptable. (for later dates:if you want him to kiss you, look into his eyes and lean in slightly, only if you are in that right moment).
Be careful with gift giving. Put some thought into it. It involves giving the right thing to right person at the right time. Know his taste. Ask him about his favorite things well before you actually give him a gift.
BE PREPARED TO BE REJECTED
Everyone faces rejection, you might get rejected by someone, you might reject someone else. Be positive. Do not let anyone bring you down. Do not ever beg for attention, walk away in style. It only means that he is not the one.